The Living Memories Project

By remembering the lives and legacies of loved ones, we can take concrete steps to heal ourselves.

By remembering and celebrating how they lived, rather than how they died, we can enhance our resilience, compassion, and creativity.

During the promotional tour for her first book, The Living Memories Project: Legacies that Last, Dr. Meryl Ain saw that people grieving for loved ones, as well as professionals who work with the bereaved, needed a new approach and additional tools to help in the process of moving forward.

This determination to support others in coming to terms with the loss of a loved one led Dr. Ain to bring together resources, stories and to help professionals individuals, and bereavement groups transform grief into positive action and living legacies.

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Your Living Memories


View and Send The Living Memories Project Holiday Cards

While for many this is the happiest time of the year, for those who have had a loss — especially a fresh one — getting through the holidays or lifecycle events can be extremely difficult. So it’s a good idea to think of those who may be lonely or sad at this season of the year.  We’ve created downloadable holiday cards, which are appropriate for those who are missing loved ones. Check out our Holiday Season, Christmas, and Hanukkah cards, which send a comforting and caring message of keeping memories alive. Just download and then email or post on Facebook...
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Surviving the Holidays When You’ve Had a Loss

It’s the holiday season and everyone appears to be merry — except for everybody else who is missing a loved one! The holidays are the most difficult time of year for those who have sustained a loss. Two years ago, I wrote about the death of Susan, my sister-in-law and friend. She died a few days before Thanksgiving and her loss resonated throughout the holiday season and beyond. That first year, Susan’s Cincinnati family held a carrot cake bake-off on Thanksgiving in her memory. Everyone put on blindfolds as they taste-tested Susan’s cake and other carrot cakes — one from...
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Readable, inspirational collection of short, personal memorials….The stories all have an informal tone (some record recent loss, others go back years), and each story is told by a survivor who now “shares” it with the reader, thus giving the tributes a sense of intimacy, of confidences exchanged…..What emerges from all the stories is that legacy is what we make of it, what we do, and that memorials are for us more than about the dead. Click here.

Joan Baum, Dan’s Papers

This is a wonderful book, and a powerful topic! A book you’ll actually want to savor, especially if you are thinking about how you’d like to best honor the memory of someone special whom you’ve lost. Or even if you’re looking ahead to how you personally would like to be remembered.

Anne Holmes, National Association of Baby Boomer Women


Commack, NY – Friday, December 16, 2016 – 8:30 a.m.

Suffolk Y JCC Welcomes The Living Memories Project Authors! 74 Hauppauge Road, Commack, NY 11725 (631) 462-9800 Friday, December 16 8:30 a.m. to 1 p.m. The Suffolk Y JCC will hold The Living Memories Project Grief and Bereavement Conference geared to professionals in grief and bereavement counseling. Continuing Education Credits are available. The public is welcome. Register here. Click to download the full brochure.